What do you do when a friend betrays you?
Here are the steps you should take either way.
- Accept that being betrayed by a friend is deeply hurtful.
- If you can, have an honest conversation with your friend.
- Figure out why you feel so betrayed.
- Ask whether the relationship is worth saving.
- Ask whether they are sorry.
- Don’t rush into a decision.
- Say goodbye.
What are examples of friendship betrayal?
Friendship-based betrayal comes in many forms, from stealing or sleeping with your significant other, to going after a job you want, to gossiping or sharing something you told them in confidence.
What counts as betrayal in friendship?
Betrayal is when a friend, whom you counted on for support, love, affection, trust, loyalty, camaraderie, or respect, has somehow destroyed your trust. She may have violated a confidence or told a lie about you, harmed your other personal relationships, or even cost you your job.
Why do friends betray friends?
A common friend betrayal is when a friend drops their close friend because of their new romantic relationship. The close friend goes from spending a lot of time with their friend to none at all. A person can feel like their friendship isn’t of any value anymore. At times, a person can be overly self-centered.
Why do friends Ghost each other?
Your friend might feel like they don’t have the energy to communicate their feelings to you because of something else that’s going on in their life. And, added Dr. Perry, “Ghosting can help the person avoid dealing with the discomfort of asking for and receiving help.
Should I forgive a friend who betrayed me?
“Even if you decide to forgive a betrayal,” says Dr. Blake, “it does not mean that you have to continue the friendship. If you find that the betrayal goes against your values, you may still decide that you do not want to continue the friendship with that person.”
Should I talk to my friend who betrayed me?
Talk to your friend about the betrayal. During a conflict, communication is important because people will often assume and misinterpret other people’s actions. Determine if your friend understood your feelings and figure out if they feel remorseful for their actions.
Why does my friend go behind my back?
They may be so used to blaming others for the way they feel, they’ve forgotten they have the same power you have: No one can make them feel inferior. When people talk behind your back, it says more about them than about you. And what it often says is that they’re struggling with their own identity and self-confidence.